WHY DO WE GET STUCK IN OUR WAYS?   

Some may call it closed-mindedness; others may call it stubbornness.

What we believe is largely shaped by our unconscious perceptions and assumptions. As the brain matures and gains experience, it develops confirmation bias—seeking out information that supports beliefs we think keep us safe. The brain would often rather stay in an unhealthy comfort zone than choose a healthier but uncertain environment.

In fact, about ninety percent of the thoughts we think about each day are the same as those thoughts we had in the past. That’s why it is so important to stay objective and avoid becoming trapped in repetitive thinking patterns that do not serve us.

We are designed to be balanced and open-minded. When we slow down, relax, and become aware of the present moment, we can begin to question our thoughts: The feelings I have are definitely real—but are my interpretations of the situation actually true? What you believe shapes your reality. Becoming aware of our unconscious beliefs is key, as they influence our everyday behavior.

Here are a few pointers to help you build awareness and challenge your thinking:

• Look at the bigger picture: Examine your beliefs. Did you consciously choose them, or are they automatic reactions shaped by past experiences?
•  How are these beliefs serving me? Small changes can produce big results.
• Challenge entrenched thinking: Be willing to see the world differently. This opens the door to learning, growth, and meaningful change.
• Adapt to lateral thinking. Growth happens when we remain curious, flexible, and open to new perspectives. In this open mindset we create new neuron connections and pathways.
• Reflect on your identity: Is this how I want to be defined? Would I recommend these beliefs to someone I love?

When we become narrow-minded, it affects the brain’s synaptic connections and reduces its flexibility. Remember neurons that wire together, fire together. This can slow down our ability to process and adapt to new or stressful situations. Over time, this will impact memory, mood and overall health.

By becoming more aware and intentional in our thinking, we can break free from limiting patterns and create space for growth, resilience, and a more balanced way of living.